Looking To Hire A Confidence Coach? Read This Before You Spend Your Money

If you've ever typed "confidence coach" or "hypnosis for confidence" into Google, you've probably been overwhelmed by all the advice that ranges from incredibly shallow to down right confusing. One person says. "Just act like you feel confident," and another tells you to recite five affirmations every morning and it's as easy as that. Meanwhile, you are wondering how to finally silence your overthinking mind which I like to call your "Mind Monster". Hoping one day you will wake up knowing how to set healthy boundaries without feeling guilty and finally feel as if you are enough.

As someone who has struggled with depression, negative thinking and been a doormat to many of the people who claimed to love you, I get it. I have been where you are now. And after working on myself rewiring the way I think and walk in the world, I now help thousands of women and men who struggle with self-worth, self criticisms and the longing to feel confident and seen

As a hypnotherapist and therapeutic practitioner I understand that real confidence is grounded in a compassionate relationship with yourself. It means you know and understand who you are. You feel safe in who you are and you are comfortable with being seen by the world. It means you know how to show up even when you don't have everything all figured out.

What does a "Confidence Coach" really do?

We help you build a stronger relationship with yourself by helping you figure out what your values and beliefs are. We guide you to discover the negative beliefs that have been holding you back. This isn't some generic self help advice but an in-depth look at the moments of your life that lead you to overthinking, people pleasing, self doubt and insecurity.

We guide you through things like:

• Discovering your values and what is truly important to you

• Understanding the negative beliefs that make you feel unworthy or never enough

• Learning how to trust your intuition

• Silencing your critical mind monster that makes you second guess yourself

• Teach you how to rewire your nervous system to ground yourself during stressful moments

There are a wide range of techniques that coaches and hypnotherapist will use to help you discover who you are and help you change the beliefs that are holding you back.

What Can A Confidence Coach Help Me With?

The best confident coaches teach you how to identify how you feel and how to move through the difficult feelings. They will help you identify the deep rooted negative beliefs, fears and patterns that make you feel as if confidence is far beyond your grasp.

If you have ever looked at someone and thought "I wish I could be that confident" then a confident coach is right for you.

Examples of real issues a confidence coach can help with:

• Moving through strong emotions such as anxiety or fear

• Feeling more confident in social settings

• Letting go of never feeling enough

• Setting healthy boundaries & speaking up for yourself

• Self regulating & grounding techniques

• Learning to say "No" without guilt

How Do I Find The Right Coach?

• The first step is knowing what you want. What do you want help with specifically? You can narrow your search by looking for that specific specialty.

• I highly suggest looking for coaches that offer a free consultation so that you can get a feel for them. Trust is an important part of the healing process, so interview a few different coaches. Ask them what their approach is and get a feel for how they work.

• Consider if you want one on one coaching or a program that you can purchase and do at your own pace. Remember though, a coach will hold you accountable and give you the gentle push that we all need time from time.

Things to Be Aware Of:

• Any coach that says that they promise instant results. The truth is that change takes reflection and time. Yes, it can happen quickly especially if you are using tools like hypnosis but watch out for things that sound too good to be true.

• Watch out for those who have had no training and simply rely on life experiences.

• If they say that their program is the only program that will help you

• If you just feel like you don't have a connection with them. It's ok to talk with multiple coaches

What Kind Of Results Are Realistic?

It's really important that you understand that this is NOT about perfection. It's about embracing all parts of yourself while improving at the sametime. True confidence is grounded in self-trust and emotional safety. There is no need to pretend because you know you don't have to be perfect. You just have to feel safe enough to be the real you.

With the right support, you can expect:

• A safe place for you to fully express yourself

• Learn how to build healthy boundaries without the guilt

• Manage your internal critic and learn how to reframe

• Embrace the way you look

• Learn how to regulate your nervous system & learn how to respond instead of react

• Truly feel connected to yourself & your intuition

For the past 11 years, I have observed clients transform from feeling invisible and unworthy to becoming confident and strong. I feel blessed to walk with them on this transformation. .

If there's one thing to take away from this article, it's that you deserve to feel positive about yourself. It's perfectly fine to invest in yourself and to seek assistance when needed.

How Can I Start Feeling More Confident Right Now?

I used to think that only certain people who given the gift of confidence when they were born and the rest of us just had to fake it. But the truth is that it's built through consistency, rewiring and safety. If you want to experience confidence you need to make a commitment to yourself, that even though the journey maybe difficult at times you will keep showing up for yourself.

There is not just one simple fix to make you feel more confident. You need to work on your mind and body connection and learning to regulate your nervous system.

Box Breathing

The next time you feel anxious, nervous or stressed out I want you to try this.

Breath in through the nose for 4 counts

Hold for 4 counts

Breath out through the mouth for 4 counts

Hold for 4 counts

Do this a few times in a row and it will help lower stress and help regulate your nervous system.